I realize that I'm lucky because my husband shares my passion for horses and riding. We love spending time with each other, and we love spending time with each other on horseback. However, while having a horsey spouse definitely has its advantages (i.e. we never have that discussion on "HOW much does this sport cost again?!?!), there are a few downsides that you might not have considered.
1. You have to buy a horse for him. Said horse might be more expensive and better trained than your own horse.
The Incomparable Brego
2. You're not the only one who wants fancy new tack. In fact, your husband might have his eye on this fancy Custom Saddlery monoflap, despite the fact that he already has three saddles. He also owns four bridles, including some fancy custom Portuguese jousting thing with cast brass bling.
He wants one. I want one. Who will get one first? Obviously the CORRECT answer is that you each get the other one a saddle for your 10th anniversary. That seems fair, right?
3. He will borrow your horse, and look damn good doing it.
I mean, we get "cute pair" on dressage tests all the time, but HE has women falling all over him and Paddy at jousts, and I'm just "the squire". Not. Fair.
All joking aside, having both of us be horsey works out pretty well, and I wouldn't change it for the world. Our riding interests are different enough that we don't compete against each other, but we support each other at our respective competitions (my hubby is the best chai-maker, test caller, and cheering section a girl could ask for). We take lessons from the same trainer (we do not share lessons, DO NOT DO THAT) and we both love trail riding and foxhunting, so we do that together.
Yes, he's reading Kottas on Dressage. This photo was not a setup, FYI.
Does your spouse/significant other ride? Do you wish they did, or are you content to have different hobbies?